FETISHISM AND BDSM SESSION that year does not go out of fashion - mainly in the form of defiant clothes and vague fantasies about special sensations. In fact, BDSM practices can be painful, nasty and humiliating, which excites not all, and sex in them is not necessary at all. Therefore, those wishing to expand their sexual horizons should familiarize themselves with the basic concepts and decide for themselves whether it is worth it. Even if you decide that it’s not worth it, no one bothers to play a little with your existing partner, provocative clothes will finally do a good job, and knowing the framework of the already established subculture will help you and not accidentally cross the border.
First you need to understand what a BDSM session is. This is a set of three abbreviations: DB - bondage and discipline, DS - Dominant-submission and SM - sadomasochism. Each format has its own type of relationship between the Upper / Top / Dominant (the acting side) and the lower / Bottom / submissive (the receiving side). In general terms, databases are time-limited sessions using various practices and strict demarcation of roles. Before or after, despite insults and waxing in the process (for example), both then can go and drink tea without any inequality. "Education", fixation, sensory deprivation, role-playing games - all this relates to the database.
DS implies a continuous transfer of power over all or (more often) certain areas of life. Example: a big house boss obeys his wife in everything, including the requirement to wear thongs with pandas and go to the gym. Subjugation and dominance can be reduced to a bedroom, as well as expand for almost a lifetime. Although usually all of their worries are enough to steer the affairs of the lower outside the house.
Despite insults and waxing
in the process, partners can then go to drink tea
without any inequality
SM is mainly about painful effects in order to get pleasure. A sadist likes to torment, a masochist - to suffer. A masochist is sometimes lower only formally. It even happens that our imaginary wife of a great boss is a masochist herself, but as a Dominant she demands from her submissive husband that he beat her, stick her needles or do something else. He may not like it, but he cannot refuse within the framework of an agreement on subordination. However, it often happens that a sadist and a masochist are more or less equal in the choice of interaction.
Of course, the subculture related to BDSM session is extremely heterogeneous: the erotic exchange of power that is characteristic of BD sessions can turn out to be unbearably dull for SMs, where they fly away from pain and its infliction. Permanent relations of the DS format often do without physical influences in general, and if they are punished, then obviously not for pleasure. In SM, the receiving party may well command the process, and those living in a long-term homestead are able to not seriously take fans of DB sessions once every couple of weeks. Therefore, to find a "BDSM Bible" or the present, without fools, The subject is almost impossible. The main thing to understand is the fundamental principles of BDSM, without which it will turn from an exciting game into ordinary violence.
The basic rule of BDSM session is called BRD and stands for "safety, reasonableness, voluntariness." This is a tracing paper from the English SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual), different interpretations happen, but in the mass it is perceived approximately the same. How to interpret these words.