If intimacy has begun to hurt, you should say so. Arrange this in advance so that the partner stops if you feel unpleasant or don't like something. Feel free to express yourself if you are poorly understood or misinterpreted by behavior. The boundaries of what is permitted are different for everyone, and the new partner does not know them yet.
Short act
During the first sexual encounter, arrange for a short BDSM session. This ensures that you have a great time and you can understand whether you are interested or not. Long sessions will be appropriate later, when you get to know each other better.
Keep it simple
At the first meeting, they recommend only slightly going beyond the limits of what is permitted, enjoying what is happening. Let it be light slaps, pats, not rough sex. So it will be possible to understand whether such a connection brings pleasure or not. If you like everything, the partners will look forward to a new meeting and will be able to continue sexual games. At the first contact, you should not find out the boundaries, look for the edges of the permission point.
Don't get vulnerable
This is the first time that you play domination BDSM session with a person and are in unfamiliar territory, so you must be in a position that makes it easy to finish the sex scene. That is, a person should be able to independently stand up and leave if his words do not take effect. Avoid tight binding, do not lose control.
What to avoid at the first meeting
You are going on a first date to play BDSM session, then you need to know what to avoid:
Hard binding.
Complete visibility restrictions.
Fight.
No need to try the most difficult events, start with simple and understandable actions for you.
Use your own toys
If you use toys from a sex shop in a game with a sexual partner, use only your own. Any toy must be owned and cleaned by the person to whom it belongs.
Do not use other people's toys, because:
You do not know whether it is pure or not.
You do not know who used it before you.
It does not belong to you.
These requirements are sometimes even applied to things for bondage. For example, to tie the genitals you need a rope that has not been used by someone before. You can wear a condom on vibrators, dildos, and other sex products to protect yourself from infections.
Do not leave immediately after completion
If you have the opportunity to stay for a while after the session, do not leave immediately. Show respect to the partner, you should understand that you are close, support him. This will create a pleasant and safe atmosphere if you intend to continue the relationship in the future. Especially support is required lower.
Talk later
Do not immediately after the game of domination and submission discuss everything that happens. Leave it for later. Think about what you would like, what you didn’t like, and then discuss this topic with your partner. You can make an offer for the future, share, but only after a day or two. Do not spoil the aftertaste with such a conversation, it is needed, but not immediately.
Be honest
Tell the truth about what you don’t like in dominant BDSM session sex, and what excites you, then it will be easier for your partner to please you and not cause discomfort, disappoint. No need to try to be polite to please, pretending to own interests. Being honest is the best way to find out if you are suited to each other or not. Want to have fun, not be shy and be sincere.
Your partner should know how you felt and what made you feel it in the BDSM session game. Talk about which actions were enjoyable and which were unpleasant, degrading, not exciting.
When you agree to a session with someone for the first time, make sure everything is safe. Pay more attention to your security and your partner’s identity. Be sure to get to know him better before entering into such a relationship with him. This will make you feel comfortable, there will be no constraint and restraint, and the first intimate meeting will bring pleasure and unforgettable impressions.